Wednesday, September 27, 2006


Flat Lady Bug enjoyed her stay here in NC! She went to work with me and visited with her friends, helped me write a few programs, and even enjoyed our water fountain outside. She also went to a birthday party down at the beach. It's time for FLB to fly away now so she is heading towards Texax. Safe flight FLB!!!

Thursday, September 21, 2006

New Doll

I saw this doll from my May Magpie's group. She is called June and comes with 6 different outfits. She usually cost $50 but is on sale for $19.95!! Yeah!!

Tuesday, September 19, 2006

He's growing up so fast!!

When I look at him I am amazed at how he has matured and grown. Gone are the little boy chubby cheeks, the pudgy fingers, and the innocent face. In place there is a confident handsome young man. Wow....

Wednesday, September 13, 2006

Moon Festival

The Chinese Moon Festival is October 6th this year. It is always on the 15th day of the 8th month by the Chinese Lunar Calendar. The Moon festival is also called the Mid-Autumn Festival. This is one of the most important traditional event for China and is considered a holiday for family members to get together when possible.

It is said that Chang Er drank the exlir of life to save the Chinese people from her husband's tyrannical rule. After she drank it she found herself floating so she flew to the moon. Her husband loved her so much that he didn't shoot down the moon like he did 9 of the 10 suns. Also living on the moon is a wood cutter named Wu Gang and a jade rabbit which is Chang Er's pet. In the old days people used to pay homage to the fairy Chang Er and her pet the jade rabbit.

Each Chinese festival has some sort of special food. The Moon Festival has the moon cake which is a kind of cookie with fillings of sugar, fat, sesame, walnut, the yoke of preserved eggs, ham or other material. There are hundreds of varieties of moon cakes now available.

Tuesday, September 12, 2006

FLB is coming to visit!!!!

I belong to many groups on Yahoo that talk about adoption and more particularly, China adoption. This group is for everyone that was DTC (Dossier To China) in May of 2006. We have just voted on our logo and we have had a quilt swap, bib swap, and postcard swap. I participated in both the quilt and postcard swap.

We are also sending FLB around to different members so she can visit and see what they are doing as they wait. What is FLB, why its Flat Lady Bug!! She is due here this week. I'll take pictures of her doing different things with the family and then post them to the group and here. So far she has been to Syracuse, NY (my home town!)


and Indiana

I wonder what she'll do here in NC?

Friday, September 08, 2006

10 Weird Things about Me

Ok - here you go Karen!!

1. I was walking at the age of 11 months. Not weird, I know, but when my brother was born 6 months later I quit walking and didn't do it again until I was 2 yrs old!
2. When I was little I used to swallow my tongue if I didn't get my way. (I'm still spoiled today!!)
3. I love love love horror flicks!! Give me a dark room, some good buttered popcorn and a scary movie anyday and I'll be very content all day!
4. I adore chocolate - absolutely adore it!
5. I bite my fingernails down to the quick then start chewing off the skin..gross!
6. The only way I'll eat a bologna sandwich is with one piece of bread and one piece of bologna. I take the bread & bologna, fold it over, and smoosh it!
7. Even though it's bad for me I'm addicted to RQ!!
8. Speaking of addictions, I'm also addicted to the Cake & Shake from Cold Stone.
9. When I drive my left foot is tucked under my right thigh - now go figure that one out!!!
10. I grew up in a town where the water runs north.

Thursday, September 07, 2006

What happens to the ones who aren't adopted?

Good question. I'm not sure you'll like the answer. We don't truly know. I saw this on another site. It is from Amy Eldrige who works with Love Without Boundaries, a charity that helps Chinese orphans. A question was posted on APC and this is what she wrote:

"I wrote this to APC in 2004. It still stands today:

What happens to the children in the orphanages in China is as varied as what
happens to the children in America. You will not find data on this
subject. So for those who are looking for reports, they are not there. It
is all anecdotal, and those who work with Chinese orphans are told story
after story from directors of what happens to these kids. I have been told
everything from "we promise we will care for them" to "you don't want to

Some children are raised with orphanage staff who truly care for them and
will try anything to help them find their place in society. There are some
orphanages who have successful vocational training programs, so that the
kids can learn a skill like woodworking or sewing. Some orphanages will
hire the older children on staff if possible, so that they will have a place
to work and stay.

And of course some will turn them out at 16 without a penny or a birth
certificate to their name.

Just as when I wrote about nutrition, it is impossible to make blanket
statements about what happens to children there. I can assure you that some
cities have forbidden orphans to marry or have children because they have no
family name to pass down (and everything in China is tied to family). But
there are also orphanages where the staff goes and argues with local schools
and companies to accept the children coming out of their care.

I have encountered both extremes. On the positive, I look at Hong, who is
the very first orphan college student in all of Guangdong. The news
recently did a 20 minute documentary on her. She has attained the highest
marks in accounting. The orphanage staff were adamant that this bright girl
be given the chance to sit for the college entrance exam. Her
accomplishment is no small feat. There are only a certain number of college
slots in China, and the competition is FIERCE. Some parents start preparing
their child for the exam at age six. And so for an orphaned child to sit
and pass this exam......oh it was a wonderful thing. The staff was so
worried about how the rest of the students would treat her since she was an
orphan. She was leaving with nothing but the clothes on her back because
the orphanage didn't have extras to give her. Thanks to some wonderful
parents, she started college with a new wardrobe and
dozens of "you can do it" letters. And she has. The most wonderful thing
to me is that she has been befriended by another student's family. So now,
during holidays, she has a place to go. That is one of the things that we
often overlook. In China, everyone goes home for national holiday and
spring festival. You go HOME. But if you don't have a
are so very alone. I am so thankful that Hong now has a family to visit.
She wrote me recently and said that it has been an uphill battle her whole
life, but she is determined to make it. I celebrate Hong, but I also think
about how large the Guangdong Province is and I think.....she is the only
one so far.

I was able to meet with orphaned adults in their 20s on my February trip.
There is no other word for their stories except anguish. They wept about
their lives. With so many orphans getting such limited education, many
cannot even read or write. To be turned out at 16 with no skills......that
is very, very tough indeed. Imagine living your whole life without a mother
or father, and then not being allowed to marry. What loneliness.

But we cannot say that working in the factories in China is a bad thing. If
we could get every orphan a factory job, I would be so very thrilled!! My
friend manages a factory in Shenzhen, and while the pay is just 26 cents an
hour, the employees show up in suitcoats and ties. They are so very proud
that they have a full time job. They get meals in the cafeteria and they
have a dorm room with indoor plumbing. For people in poverty afflicted
areas.....these jobs mean everything to them. We cannot compare our often
very comfortable lives with theirs.

It is far too complex to make blanket statements about what life would have
held for our children. Yes, you can know that the odds were definitely NOT
in their favor. Most are children "without a family name". Perhaps they
would have been blessed with an orphanage director who would move heaven and
earth for their well being. Or perhaps they would have ended up living on
the street. I am sure some of it has to do with sheer numbers, too. It is
easier for an orphanage director to take on each child as a special case
when there are only thirty kids in his care compared to 1200.

The one thing I know for certain is that these kids have the same hopes and
dreams that ours do. Yesterday I got the news that one of my favorite 15
year olds did not pass the exam to become a teacher. And my heart was heavy
over what will become of her now. She told me with such excitement in May
that she wanted to beat the odds and teach. We are all praying that the
school will reconsider. Then there is a young lady I also love who has sold
most of her clothes in order to buy paper and pens. She spends all her free
time drawing and dreams of becoming a fashion designer. I wish they could
all follow their dreams. They have asked for so very little in life."

Amy Eldridge

Monday, September 04, 2006

At the Lake

TS Ernesto might have foiled our plans to camp over the holiday weekend but we did manage to get to the lake for the day. We took our friends up, cooked out, played horse shoes, and went boating. We all had a blast! Here are some pictures.


Design by Custom Blog Designs/FreeStyleMama Creations